Hate Came Before Guns


Let’s get the disclaimer out of the way, first and foremost. I am not a gun advocate. In fact, I hate guns and feel there is no need for guns. Cowards and folks with low self esteem and something to prove open carry guns. Because obviously, they are not getting acknowledgment from elsewhere- psychology issue, but I digress. That’s my opinion and I’m sticking to it. But I am a freedom fighter. Whether you choose to be stupid or not, that is your right, and I support that. However, I am a firm believer of what goes around, comes around. Just because you can, doesn’t exempt you from what you think others can’t in their reaction to it. So, without further ado, we continue this monologue.

The resurgence of the gun debate in the wake of yet another tragedy in American history has deflected the real issue: Hate. It takes a hateful person to take a gun and choose to kill another human being. Guns do not kill. People that hate use guns to kill. But they don’t only use guns, they use knives, machetes, rope, rocks, and even their own hands.

The first recorded murder was that of Abel in the Bible. He was killed at the hands of his own brother, Cain. Cain didn’t use a gun. He used hate. Hate motivated him to kill.

Why do people hate? 

Jealousy, threat, fear, and anger can drive people to insane thought. But, if we are immersed in love, we don’t envy. We don’t feel threatened and we have no fear. So, then can we assume that those who fit the attributes of jealousy, threat, and fear are not immersed in love? Absolutely.

Now we can all say that we have felt these feelings a few times in our lives. Are we then destined to turn into murderers? Absolutely not. We all are divinely equipped with a conscience and a moral compass that allows us to give pause to destructive ideas. Whether we do pause or not will determine the influence of love or hate in our lives.

In the most recent case in Charleston, SC, hate tried to rule the day. Jealousy told somebody, “These people are too joyous, resilient, strong and loving”. Threat told somebody, “They have too many rights and are taking over my country”. Fear told somebody, “My life is not safe”. Anger told somebody, “Kill”

Let’s not use the issue of gun control to overshadow the fact that hate had everything to with this situation. Even more so, we need to address the huge elephant in this red, white and blue room: RACISM. Racism is hate. Racism has killed, maimed and destroyed a people that help build this room. This room is full. There is no more room. Please tell hate to leave and take it’s bunkmate racism with him. Love was here before anybody.


(I will never use the killer’s name to give him attention or fame. This is not about him, but his actions and the hate he represents. It’s a bigger issue than one person)


This, instead, is a beautiful dedication by recording artist, Steven Curtis Chapman.

You will not be overcome by evil. But you will overcome evil with good.

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The Unraveling of Rachel Dolezal


 Well, well, well…there you have it. There is always more to a strange and unusual story. Ms. Dolezal (the woman self-identifying as black and currently breaking the interwebs) and her family are entrenched in a fierce battle of serious allegations.

An adoptive sister has accused the biological older brother of molestation. Joshua Dolezal, a professor at an Iowa college, is currently awaiting trial in Colorado on four felony counts of child sexual assault. However, the parents called the child a liar and have placed her in further isolation away from the family. Court papers are also showing that Ms. Dolezal may have also been a victim of her brother, who was sexually obsessed with black women. This tragedy led Ms. Dolezal to seek custody of the minors still in the home. Which would explain why she [won] custody of her adoptive brother.

Those who called mental illness may certainly be on to something. This woman has been in a manic state trying to escape her own tragedy in the face of her own parents’ denial and subsequent cover up of her biological brother.

It’s a bit absurd that they cover up the ills of the molesting son, yet out the victimized daughters. The timing of this “outing” is very suspect as the brother faces these charges.

Ohhhh there’s so much to this narrative. It’s sure to be a Lifetime movie.

But, I feel pity for her as she faces great trauma in dealing publicly with what so many have in private. We are not talking about a random white woman up and deciding to become black “just because”. We are talking mental trauma from an abusive upbringing and how she has chosen to deal with it.

Black folks are going to need to extend some grace here. Why? Because I don’t think Ms. Dolezal has caused as much “damage” to others as what has been caused to her. Again, this is not about being “transracial”  or “race identifying” more than it’s about coping with a traumatic life event. Get off of your own “feels” and try to understand why people do the things they do. There’s always much more beneath the surface of an chunk of ice in the ocean.

Ms. Dolezal has obviously escaped into a world she felt was more embracing than the world she existed in that was full of harm and terror. I can only assume that the Rachel we see now is the end result of total disconnect and escapism of the Rachel she was born as. The sadistic obsession of her brother and ultimate denial of her parents drove her to this place of stripping of oneself and disassociation of identity and family.

When she said she “knows and identifies with the black experience”, this may well be true…to her. As the alleged actions of her brother may have contributed to her statement, making it her reality. Reading the graphic statements of the allegations would certainly lead one to believe that she was immersed into a sadistic, sexualized fantasy world by her brother, who then went on to do the same to their adoptive sister years later.

Race is clearly a secondary issue (albeit a HUGE close tie for first place). I think we need to deal with the issues of sexual abuse and mental trauma here. Then, I think she will be able to understand the depth of her manipulation and perpetuated deception in her own life.

Much healing and help for this sister.

Don’t Demonize My Children


The American Psychological Association reports that black kids are viewed as older and less innocent than their white counterparts.

When faced with a situation (i.e. the McKinney Pool Party fiasco) people in general naturally assume the worst of kids who may be otherwise “just having fun”.

Why am I so concerned with this? This could have well been my own kids who frequent pools within the community we live in. They also visit friends whose community pools are set up very much like the McKinney neighborhood pool.

Now, we may (or may not-so listen up) understand the long history of segregated pools in America. And we may (or may not- keep reading) understand “white flight” in America. But what we most certainly fail to do is acknowledge the huge elephant standing in this small room called Humanity.
You may work with black folk, you may have one or two in your family or on your FB list. But, do you notice the subconscious prejudices you hold against your brother/sister? This is what has caused systematic issues that has disenfranchised a whole group of people!

Anytime you deem a mouthy child as your equal and worthy of a WWE style wrestling match with a bonus gun draw, you are indeed the problem. What made this person think (with several other heat-packing law enforcers in the area) his life was in danger? Did this rogue cop think all these kids showed up to a middle class neighborhood (which many reside in), strapped with shanks & firearms in their swimsuits ready to do damage? For what reason does this make sense?

Tamir Rice

Tamir Rice

The psychology report stated that law enforcement are even more likely to assume black kids are older and guilty. What does this tell us? It tells us Tamir Rice (Cleveland, Ohio) didn’t even have a chance.

There needs to be an aggressive address of this horrible issue! This mentality has most certainly contributed to the overwhelming numbers of black men in prison. Black people aren’t any more criminal than any other group of people! This is systematic folks!

Kalief Browder

This is the same systemic problem that has claimed the life of our child, 22 yr old Kalief Browder (yes, he is America’s child!). As a tenth grader full of potential, Kalief was accused of taking a backpack. A BACKPACK. This wrong accusation sent him to one of the toughest prisons in the nation! There, he would be in solitary confinement for THREE (3) YEARS! He was constantly beaten and taken advantage of. This took a mental toll on him and eventually he took his own life. All because he was deemed a criminal in the eyes of the law. What justice is that?

But this is not an isolated case. There are volumes to be reviewed. Millions of disenfranchised young people. This situation in McKinney could well have ended the same.
What are we to do? Hide in your corners because it doesn’t apply to you? Or, recognize it when you see it. Look for it when you feel benign to it. These are my children. These are your children. If you’re a tax payer, demand the end of exploitations and the selling of black men to private prisons. Demand a reformation in the policies and procedures dealing with the prison system. Help build up a community. Empower a kid. Tell them they are just as worthy as the next kid. Think the best before thinking the worst. Don’t demonize my kids.

Learning the Art of Entrepreneurship


It’s been a journey of enduring life adjustments in the past year and a half. Finally settling in and on a search for new opportunities. It’s exciting! I always thought one should promote what they love. And it’s even better when at least one of those things exist in the world of natural and holistic living. 

After sitting on a it for a few years, I thought now is a great time to stand and take action. 

I’ve been inspired by Miss NebSa from Inspirit Arts and hope to learn more and share the art of Headwrapping.

Take a sneak peek from a fellow Inspirit sister here:

More to come!




After months of absence, I am ready to start blogging again. Many changes and stories have transpired, I couldn’t possibly catch up. But from here I will continue on this journey we call life and record as much as possible. My brain is about to burst in so much thought. Stay tuned….


Fareed Zakaria is on point with this one! Fact check people…not opinion. America is not taking care of its poor. It is too busy being rich.
“The comfort of the rich depends upon an abundant supply of the poor” — Voltaire

Global Public Square

By Fareed Zakaria, CNN

Remember Mitt Romney’s infamous “poor” comment? If not, here it is again:

“I’m not concerned about the very poor. We have a safety net there. If it needs repair, I’ll fix it. I’m not concerned about the very rich; they’re doing just fine. I’m concerned about the very heart of America, the 90-95% of Americans who right now are struggling.”

Well, it got me thinking: Romney was actually being honest about Americans in general. We don’t — none of us — spend much time thinking about the very poor.

But we should, because we have a real problem in this area, an economic, political and moral problem.

By Romney’s calculations, if 95% of Americans fall in the middle class, then there must be less than 5% of Americans who qualify as poor.

Well, no.

The number from the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, the…

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